Our son does not want to go to school. He did not want to go from day one, and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. As a parent, what can I do to help motivate him?
As with any new or potentially unsettling situation, like starting school for the first time or entering a new grade or new school, your children need time to adjust. Remind them everyone fee... read more
Source: Dr. Phil O'Dwyer,
As with any new or potentially unsettling situation, like starting school for the first time or entering a new grade or new school, your children need time to adjust. Remind them everyone feels a little nervous about going back to school, and soon, it will all become an everyday routine.
Emphasize the positive things about going back to school, such as seeing old friends and making new ones, learning new and exciting things, buying new clothes or cool school supplies, or getting involved in sports and other activities.
It’s also important to talk to your child about what worries them and offer reassurance. Are they afraid they won’t make new friends or get along with their teachers? Is the thought of schoolwork stressing them out? Are they worried about the bully from last year?
Consider adjusting your own schedule to make the transition smoother. If possible, it’s especially beneficial for parents to be home at the end of the school day for the first week. But many working moms and dads just don’t have that flexibility. Instead, try to arrange your evenings so you can give them as much time as they need during those first few days.
To help ease back-to-school butterflies, try to transition kids into a nightly routine. Also make sure that they:
Get plenty of sleep: establish a reasonable bedtime so they will be well rested and ready to learn in the morning
Eat a nutritious breakfast: they’re more alert and do better in school if they eat a good breakfast every day
Write it down: this will help them remember important information such as their locker combination, what time classes and lunch start and end, their homeroom and classroom numbers, teachers’ and/or bus drivers’ names, etc.
Get organized the night before: homework and books should be put in their backpacks by the door and clothes should be laid out in their bedrooms
Although it’s normal to be anxious in any new situation, a few kids develop real physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches, associated with the start of school. If you’re concerned your child’s worries go beyond the normal back-to-school jitters, speak with your child’s doctor, teacher, school counselor or consider seeing someone like me.